Anger and emotion are strategically counterproductive. You must always stay calm and objective. But if you can make your enemies angry while staying calm yourself, you gain a decided advantage. Put your enemies off-balance: find the chink in their vanity through which you can rattle them and you hold the strings.
Keys To Power
- Anger is not power, but a sign of helplessness. People may temporarily be cowed by your tantrums, but in the end they lose respect for you. They also realize they can easily undermine a person with so little self-control.
- The answer is not to repress our anger or emotional responses. It is to change our perspective — that nothing in the social and power realm is personal.
- Anger cuts off our options, and the powerful cannot thrive without options.
- Once you have trained yourself not to take matters personally, you can play with the emotional responses of other people.
- In the face of a hot-headed enemy, an excellent response is no response. Nothing is as infuriating as a man who keeps his cool while others are losing theirs.
- When playing with people’s emotions you have to be careful. Study the enemy beforehand: some fish are best left at the bottom of the pond.
- There are also times where a well-timed burst of anger can do you good, but your anger must be manufactured and under your control. Then you can determine exactly how and on whom it will fall.